Lessons Learnt
Hi! Well this is probably long overdue, but I've gotta tell you what a year I've had in 2018! Graduation, a family visit in Mauritius and a ton of drama... Despite the ups and downs, I can't lie it's a year that I will never forget. Here's a few things I've learnt and some of you can probably relate.
You need to block out toxic/negative people from your life
Sometimes it can be the energy that you surround yourself in, that can affect you psychologically and in order for you to focus on your needs or accomplish a goal you need to eliminate that energy. Just because they're a friend or a family member, doesn't mean you have to tolerate their behaviour. We have choices in life and selfish choices for that matter. It may be wrong, but the stress and unease of toxic relationships isn't worth your happiness.
Stand up for yourself
Don't be afraid to speak up for yourself even if it means risking relationships. Once you keep allowing others to do wrong against you, they will start to take advantage of your weakness, so you have to toughen up say what's on your mind. It may take some longer than others but you will see once you open up it will get everything you've been holding back off your chest. It may raise other issues you haven't come to terms with and allow you to move on from the past. Just by speaking the truth you will gain the respect from others. It may not be the most important thing as far as you accept who you are.
The years of friendship doesn't mean anything
Some people could be friends with someone for years however that person could be disloyal, whereas a friend you've known a year could be the best friend you've ever had. Every friendship is different, some people are lucky and still have an amazing bond with a childhood friend. Don't feel disheartened if you've lost long-term friendships, some people are only meant be in your life temporarily. Be open to making new friendships.
Believe in yourself
Well I'm progressing...but for real if you don't have the confidence in yourself then how are you gonna get the motivation to reach your full potential? Keep in mind all the things you are good at and stop focusing on what you can't do. Being a recent graduate, it can be difficult to remain positive when you've been turned down by so many employers. Sometimes you need to stop what you're doing, and question is this what I really want or is it just the easier option? Never underestimate yourself and make sure to connect with people with the same interest or mindset as yourself. Surrounding yourself with people who motivate you can make a big difference.
Appreciate family
Life is unpredictable and you have to make the most of it as you don't know how long someone will stick around. It's nice to message or call family members now and again, just because they may not always be in touch it doesn't mean that they don't think about you. No matter where you are in life always keep in contact even if it means dropping a text message to see how they are. Make those plans to meet a reality.
